What is real love?

  I think we can all agree that love is painful and yet, we cant live without it because it also brings us a bigger happiness that we cant explain. A happiness so big, full of different emotions it can also be very confusing and complex. To top it of there is the discussion of loves simplicity but complexity at the same time since love simply is caring deeply for someone. Then love becomes very complex and deep when life interferes because of the situations we are in or because the ones involved make it complex for differing reasons.
Wow, writing about real love is hard. Having an opinion about it is even harder because love is such a huge topic concerning everything we as humans live and stand for. Since love comes in different forms and shapes it can be a passion, a person, an emotion, an event, an experience and so much more. Loves shape changes so much since the intensity changes from each form yet it is still considered love. An easy example is the love of a mother towards her children and husband. The love is different for each member as is the intensity of the feeling, yet we still have to consider this woman's love towards her life, experiences, passion, pet, cravings, etc. Love is simple. But love is complex because we don't understand it and i think we wont anytime soon.
So, what is real love?

If I was to write what is real love i think i would just be lying  and degrade myself with my blog because no one truly knows what true love is. They would just tell you what real love is to them. Love is a truth in the world that we are still far from understanding or discovering because we simply wont understand it without experiencing it. I don't wish to relate to the forms of love we currently know to the essence of it because i think that would be selfish from our part. Besides, it excites me to think we still have so much to learn about the truths we have yet to encounter since its prof there is still hope for humanity, life and true happiness. Especially since we are talking about the essence of our existence.

I cant answer what real love is and no amount of experience or time will ever give me that answer because i wont understand it. Although i can share the shape and form love takes for me.
For me love is achieving real happiness. My happiness is achieving my goals and dreams since once i accomplish them, ill be the best me i can be. Being the best me still has my flaws and once i achieve it i wont be perfect but, how can i explain it, ill be perfect just by being my best self.
As for humanity, i also believe we don't know how to truly love each other because if we did we wouldn't hurt each other for our differences but accept them. I observe we are reluctant to love for the pain it brings but there are no better words to describe how that pain is also necessary than the "stranger as jazz musics words":  "With pain comes responsibility, responsibility to look into thyself - that is your mind, your soul and your body. This respect transforms you to be with the Supreme within yourself". 
What is real love? For now i think its flexible to our will since we cant understand it anytime soon. Flexible in the sense that we define love and as such it takes different forms and shapes based on the type of person we are. Must we define it? Love can also be freedom in a sense, freedom to create the image of our happiness into something tangible. I've come to understand while writing this- that i don't want to know what the essence of love is for the time being because, for now its a mystery to me and i fear the moment it ceases to be a mystery i loose the opportunity to experience it.

How nostalgic it feels to be on the journey to understand real love, I truly am a hopeless romantic but i wouldn't want to be anything more. For i believe the biggest sin in the world is not being yourself.

Please let me know what you think.

                                                                                          Gabriela Barrera The free